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Ethnographic Case Narrative: Early Menopause, Chronic Trauma, and Institutional Accountability

This narrative is written not as an outsider analysing policy, but as someone who lived inside the contradictions, denials, and harms of state care. What follows is both lived experience and embodied data: an ethnography in which my body is … Continue reading

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The Hidden Cost of Survival: How Trauma Becomes a Financial Burden for Care Survivors

Trigger Warning: Mentions of trauma, abuse, and systemic neglect.Written from lived experience. The Price of Healing For children who grow up in state care, the trauma doesn’t end when the placement ends. The system’s failures echo through adulthood — in … Continue reading

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The Inheritance of Files: How the State Turned Guardianship into Surveillance

Trigger Warning: Mentions of state care, child abuse, and surveillance of care-experienced parents.Written from lived experience. A Child of the Court I became a ward of court at eight years old. From that moment, the state claimed legal guardianship over … Continue reading

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When Trauma Meets Bureaucracy: Living with CPTSD in a System That Doesn’t Understand It

There is something uniquely exhausting about living with Complex PTSD, not just the symptoms themselves, but the constant negotiation with systems that don’t understand them. The very institutions that claim to protect and support people with disabilities or trauma-related conditions, … Continue reading

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The Barriers of Red Tape: How Systems Silence Survivors

One of the most damaging parts of surviving abuse is not only what was done to you. it’s what follows when you try to tell the truth. The act of speaking out requires courage. Seeking justice, understanding, or even basic … Continue reading

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Local Authority Failures, and Statutory Obligations

I want to talk about statutory obligation because during my time in care, there were many failures. I tried multiple times to make statutory complaints about my care while in childhood, and as an adult. Every single time I was … Continue reading

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Fostering for Purpose Vs Financial Gain.

Fostering is a good will job, that requires skill, time and a lot of energy. Good foster parents deserve financial support and help when fostering children. Children are expensive, and giving up your life to give someone else a fairer … Continue reading

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Foster Placement 6 *trigger warning*

Please read placement number 6 before reading placement 6 *trigger warning*. this post is a part two, and has a part one. As I stated in part one, the foster mother was fake, manipulative and somewhat sadistic in her mannerisms. … Continue reading

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Placement Number 6

The family who lived in placement number 6, were foster parents whom had four biological sons. This family fostered up to four girls at a time, mainly from biracial backgrounds. The foster children slept on bunk beds in one room … Continue reading

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Foster Care Part 2 *trigger warning*

Foster family number 3 In 1991, I was placed with a black family who were personal friends with placement number 2. The new family lived in the same area, a few streets away from foster family number 2. Within four … Continue reading

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