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When Records Rewrite Reality: How False Narratives in Social Care Shape a Survivor’s Life

Decades after leaving foster care, I discovered that my social care files contained false and damaging narratives — ones that followed me into adulthood, shaped how professionals treated me, and nearly silenced my truth. This is how official records can … Continue reading

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Foster Care Displacement: Criminalization, Credibility, and hidden agenda.

When I was 10 years old, I spoke up about sexual abuse for the first time.I believed that telling the truth would make the adults around me protect me.Instead, the foster care system was used to displace, criminalize and disorientate … Continue reading

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Professional detachment: When Disclosures Are Managed And Silenced.

(Trigger Warning: Mentions of child abuse, institutional neglect, and systemic failure.) Introduction The United Kingdom presents itself as a civilized nation — reasonable, fair, and humane.But anyone who has lived within its care systems knows that the image doesn’t match … Continue reading

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The Barriers of Red Tape: How Systems Silence Survivors

One of the most damaging parts of surviving abuse is not only what was done to you. it’s what follows when you try to tell the truth. The act of speaking out requires courage. Seeking justice, understanding, or even basic … Continue reading

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Local Authority Failures, and Statutory Obligations

I want to talk about statutory obligation because during my time in care, there were many failures. I tried multiple times to make statutory complaints about my care while in childhood, and as an adult. Every single time I was … Continue reading

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Fostering for Purpose Vs Financial Gain.

Fostering is a good will job, that requires skill, time and a lot of energy. Good foster parents deserve financial support and help when fostering children. Children are expensive, and giving up your life to give someone else a fairer … Continue reading

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Foster Care Part 2 *trigger warning*

Foster family number 3 In 1991, I was placed with a black family who were personal friends with placement number 2. The new family lived in the same area, a few streets away from foster family number 2. Within four … Continue reading

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Foster Care *Trigger Warning*

I was born in Bristol City, England UK in 1979, after my parents relocated to Bristol in the early 1970s. Most of my childhood was spent growing up during the 1980s and 90s. Bristol has a rich complex history, and … Continue reading

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CSA: From a legal perspective.

To be clear from the start. When looking at your experience from a legal perspective, the therapeutic side does not really come into it. Legal and therapy are too different entities that have too different jobs to do. In blunt … Continue reading

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BOOK – Child Sexual Abuse in Protective Custody: From a Lived Perspective.

I am writing a book based on my own lived experience within the Bristol City Care system. It is a book broken down into subsections and parts. That include Life Circumstance, Police, Courts & Legislation, Mental Health & Well-Being, and … Continue reading

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